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Elmer S. Kilmer Jr.

Born: Sun., Aug. 18, 1929
Died: Sun., Jan. 20, 2019


3:00 PM to 5:00 PM, Thu., Jan. 24, 2019
Location: Audioun Funeral Home LLC

Time of Remembrance

5:00 PM Thu., Jan. 24, 2019
Location: Audioun Funeral Home LLC

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A remarkable man has left us. Elmer S. Kilmer Jr. of Auburn passed away on January 20, 2019. He was 89. He was born on Haiti Island in Port Byron to Elmer and Winifred Kilmer in 1929. Elmer was a man who knew how to love, provide, protect, sacrifice and do whatever needed to be done so that all those connected with him were able to thrive and flourish under his care, encouragement and protection.

Elmer grew up in Port Byron and like many of his generation he overcame significant challenges including the Great Depression, typhoid fever and polio. He was a spirited teenager and many a prank in town could be directly traced back to “Jr.”. He married his high school sweetheart Shirley Trowbridge in 1947. They were married for 62 years until Shirley’s passing in 2009. Their devotion to each other was inspirational to all who knew them.

Elmer was a successful businessman in the community. He owned and operated the Port Byron Lumber and Fuel Company for 30 years. He was remarkably ambitious and energetic in his work and created several other small businesses before his retirement in 1977. His quiet generosity made a difference in many people’s lives. Elmer was active in his community. He was a member of the Federated Church and served on the Board of Trustees, with the Elders and Deacons, and various committees for many years. He was a 32 degree Free Mason and served as Master of the Port Byron Lodge in 1974. Elmer served in various capacities on the Port Byron Village Board, and was Justice of the Peace for the Town of Mentz from 1982 to 1987. He had the pleasure of marrying over 50 couples in his tenure.

His unbound energy called him out of retirement to become a bus driver for the Port Byron Central School District and then for the Weedsport Central School District. He sincerely enjoyed the students in his charge and went out of his way to brighten their day and make them feel valued.

Elmer again put his boundless energy to work in building a new home in Weedsport at the age of 68. He and Shirley had 11 happy years there.

A dog or two were Elmer’s constant companions. Strays passed the word and always found a loving home with him. In recent years he enjoyed riding his electric trike around Auburn with his custom-built trailer for his dog.

Elmer fiercely loved his family and never missed an opportunity to tell them. He was predeceased in 2011 by his oldest son Lloyd (Linda) of Rochester. He leaves behind his daughter Andrea Mann (Tom) of Longmont Colorado and his son Dr. Scott Kilmer (Dr. Roberta Damberg) of Auburn, as well as his sister Eloise DeLue (Eugene) of Port Byron, eight grandchildren, two great grandchildren with another two on the way, three nieces and nephew. He also leaves behind no regrets. He will be profoundly missed by his family and friends.

Calling hours will be at the Audioun Funeral Home LLC, 218 Main St., Port Byron on Thursday, January 24 from 3pm to 5pm. A remembrance service will immediately follow at the same location.

Those who so desire may make donations in memory of Elmer to the Finger Lakes SPCA of Central New York

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Mark E Malvaso
   Posted Wed January 23, 2019
Sadden to hear of Mr. Kilmer's passing. Many fond memories of him during our Maple Ave days.
Mark Malvaso

Gretchen Smith Walsh
   Posted Wed January 23, 2019
Scott and Andrea so sorry to hear this. He was a great man who lived for his family. Hold to the memories and the love. Sending you prayers of love and support. May God Bless. Gretchen

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